Divorce lawyers refer to the first few days of January as 'D' day, because this is the period when the most divorce proceedings are commenced. Quite often this is the result of a planned 'last Christmas' before breaking the news to the children, or it may be the result of one too many arguments over the Christmas period.
Regardless of the reason, this is often a painful decision for any couple to make, and as we approach this difficult time we would like to offer a few points of advice:
- Please try not to argue in front of your children. Whilst this sounds like an obvious point, unfortunately it is one ignored by many. There is nothing to be gained by using your children as 'weapons' against your spouse - only additional upset
- Try to keep communicating with each other. Hard as it may be, in the longer term you are far more likely to be able to agree over the various issues of your case if you can at least have a civil conversation with one another.
- Do seek the advice of a good divorce lawyer. There are a variety of different ways to try to resolve your issues, and advice early on will help you stay on the right path.
Our infographic on divorce and marriage show that a huge 42% of marriages end in divorce with the average marriage lasting 11.7 years, and with 48% of divorcing couples having at least one child together there is an even greater need to try to keep divorce proceedings as civil and painless as possible.
If you would like to discuss this further you can contact Zoe Porter, Partner at Ashfords LLP, on firstname.lastname@example.org or 01392 333686.